What is a transnational marriage? It is a marriage between two people from different countries. There will be specific issues that will result in future obstacles especially on the cultural side. This is what happened to me – I’m already married for 1 year and I’m still on learning mode. Transnational marriage also can be called International marriage. Many people perhaps will know this words rather than Transnational marriage.
Transnational marriage or International marriage is hard – yes it is, not only for one side or the other but for both of us. If you want to find solutions to overcome these obstacles, I will share some tips from my own experience. These keep me and my hubby from falling apart from our wedding.
These tips definitely will work for both of you if you follow them. If not, it will be the same as rowing a boat alone while it is sinking.
BE HONEST TO EACH OTHER
This has made us stay together so far. Every problem that we have, we always talk about it to each other. Every fault that we made, we discuss it together and embrace it – not judge but forgive and lead each other to become better. Every secret that we have, we have to let each other know first before one of us hears it from another person – which can lead to fighting. Whatever happens, it is better to be open with your spouse.
COMMIT TO THE RELATIONSHIP
Both of us really try hard to commit to this relationship. No matter what problems we have – big or small, we never let these problems be the obstacles in our marriage. Instead, we look it as a game that we need to solve together. Marriage is very different from dating, you can’t break it just like that. You have to work it out together so that the boat is still floating and we can row together.
For this to happen, you need to take your ego out of the equation. If ever we have a big fight, one of us need to apologize first – NO MATTER WHOSE FAULT IT IS. This is so important because it will save you tons of time not talking to each other or even ignoring each other. This works for us when we are in the middle of fighting. If the one that apologizes first is not the one who is at fault – the fight stops just like that and we make up .
STAY TOGETHER FOR GOOD OR BAD TIMES
This will be the ultimate challenge for both of us. Will your spouse stay by your side when bad things happen? Will they try to support and help you? For us, actually this one is what makes our bond stronger. When bad things happen, we support and care for each other. We try to find solutions together.
KNOW YOUR SPOUSE’S LIMIT
Do you know what will happen when you keep pressing a balloon? It will explode. The same thing goes for your spouse – if you keep on pressing him/her, he/she will explode and fly away. Do not rush your spouse to be able to do things that will take time for them. This is the truth, I can’t learn Creole or French very fast like other people, then I give him a good explanation why you can’t treat all people the same – in the end, my hubby understands even though he is the type of person who likes to push people. LOL. Everyone has their own limit and it’s good to know what your spouse’s limits are.
I really hope that these tips will help you build your marriage stronger than ever. If you are single and want to find a strong foundation for your long distance relationship, you can check my post about 4 MUST-HAVE FOUNDATIONS TO KEEP YOUR LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP STRONG.
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